Sad. Scary. Tragic. (But Funny!)
by
Francine LaSala
I got a call from an old friend the other day. We'd fallen out of
touch over the years, but she reached out when she'd heard I'd been through a
significant loss. We spoke for a while, sharing memories and getting caught up.
Then she told me the thing I most needed to hear.
"Francine," she said, "I know you're going to come through this.
Your sense of humor always pulls you through."
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I thanked her, as you do when people say seemingly absurd things
to you at times such as these. And then I thought about what she'd said and why
she'd said it.
I have always been in the awkward habit of laughing when I hear
terrible news. Not all terrible news,
but those things that are so terrible that sorrow somehow doesn't seem
appropriate. That giggling (yes, crazy), somehow makes more sense. It's not schadenfreude. Maybe it is
schadenfreude. But whatever it is, it's the defense mechanism that gets me through.
I do it in writing, too. All of my books--the two that are
published, and the ones that are in progress and will be published next year--have
all been born from some pain or loss. For Rita
Hayworth's Shoes, it was the heartache of a boyfriend's betrayal. For The Girl, the Gold Tooth & Everything,
it was the fear of financial ruin, dread of the dentist--among other things. No
one would ever call my books "tragic"; they're all totally screwball
and silly! Yet they center on various plights of the human condition. Laced
with laughs.
I don't think you need to be sick in the head like me to find the
humor in any given situation, and then weave that humor into your own stories. Sometimes
you can do it with a situation; sometimes with a kooky character you bring in
to the situation to help break the tension. The
Girl, the Gold Tooth & Everything is peppered with these characters.
There's Char-a'tee Pryce, who continually mocks protagonist Mina Clark for
allowing the world to roll over her. There's neighbor Harriet Saunders, who
takes all of Mina's "bad mother" anxiety and flips it on its ear. (I
wrote a character piece for Louise
Wise a few months back that will give you a taste of just how kooky Harriet
is.
What I've come to learn is that in any horrible situation, there
is the possibility to laugh. To take "Turn that frown upside down" to
the extreme in your life and in your books. It feels good to laugh. It pulls
you (and your characters) out of the gloom and doom; it helps you take a step
back and detach so you can breathe.