tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post7154310314921317020..comments2024-02-25T11:40:22.282+00:00Comments on Book Buddy: I can't perform in the sexual department.Louise Wisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04585797594757452007noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-37721420041771465752011-11-26T04:20:42.290+00:002011-11-26T04:20:42.290+00:00Prior to writing my first sex scene I watched a vi...Prior to writing my first sex scene I watched a video on utube that was entitled "how to write a sex scene." It was really good and the main point that was made is the scene is totally character driven. If you have an aggressive character that would curse, then that language would fit and make it believeable. If that language isn't a characteristic of that person use something milder. I had trouble until I went with the character. In my novel Somewhere After Seduction, Drake Taylor is a very confident lover, so his actions matched his character. In the video I watched this woman explained this has nothing to do with your experience or sexual fantasy it is totally character driven. There is also an excellent book on Amazon titled "How to Write a Sex Scene" that is very good and you can usually pick it up used and in good shape. You can do it....hugs..Nancypebbleintxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08086353132512013237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-37490571718991939392011-11-26T01:54:24.923+00:002011-11-26T01:54:24.923+00:00It's very difficult to get this right. I don&#...It's very difficult to get this right. I don't do too great myself so I keep it short and sweet and as few as possible.Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-16943139994965228442011-11-26T01:54:24.658+00:002011-11-26T01:54:24.658+00:00It's very difficult to get this right. I don&#...It's very difficult to get this right. I don't do too great myself so I keep it short and sweet and as few as possible.Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-46013192294977217602011-11-22T00:05:47.874+00:002011-11-22T00:05:47.874+00:00I see what you mean - I laughed out loud at the na...I see what you mean - I laughed out loud at the names you listed. I think it depends on what sort of book you're writing. Using strong words like - forgive me here - cock is appropriate for Erotica. Not so much for romantic comedy.<br /><br />Romantic comedy offers up the advantage of using Chesticles, man-berries and the like. I don't ever suggest plagiarism, but I would read novels in the genre you're writing in. See how it's done well.<br /><br />I found it challenging when I added sex scenes to my latest novel, but so far I'm getting 5 star reviews, so my sex scenes must have been A-okay.<br /><br />Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-24339211755752815732011-11-21T23:42:51.290+00:002011-11-21T23:42:51.290+00:00I think it's because men are more procedural a...I think it's because men are more procedural and women, for want of a better word, whimsical.<br /><br />We all prefer the starter and dessert rather than the dinner! That's how I look at it anyway. Not saying all women are like this, of course, but my research is so far showing that when it comes to women writing erotica we're not that brilliant. Romance we stomp ahead, but the actual deed is a little more difficult.Louise Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04585797594757452007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-23987011320759015812011-11-21T09:34:05.658+00:002011-11-21T09:34:05.658+00:00I don't follow why women supposedly would find...I don't follow why women supposedly would find it more difficult to write a sex scene than a man. By 'power' in the earlier comment, I meant it as an insight into relationship between the two protagonists. Maybe it's a more male willingness to probe this element of power than a female one which might favour trying to get behind the moment of the act instead that leads to the view women can't write sex. But I remain to be convinced. <br /><br />I had a (male) friend who always planned to write a novel made up entirely of sex scenes, through which the reader would be able to find out everything about the relationship of the two people involved. Sort of what Henry Miller did!<br /><br />marc nashSulci Collectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293833259808943096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-67495497433651044772011-11-21T08:11:50.060+00:002011-11-21T08:11:50.060+00:00I can't write sex scenes either. Until I tried...I can't write sex scenes either. Until I tried, I thought I'd be able to - I'm not particularly shy and had conducted some research, but I discovered they're very difficult to get right.Patsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12263765378083045973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-38819770619129375472011-11-21T07:45:40.650+00:002011-11-21T07:45:40.650+00:00I've been doing lot of research and found vari...I've been doing lot of research and found various sites where it says women cannot write sex scenes, and I'm beginning to wonder if this is true. I'm not talking romance, but the nitty gritty of sex.<br /><br />And you've said some things that have been advised for female writers to try.Louise Wisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04585797594757452007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420136041899384436.post-853861722744417802011-11-21T00:23:24.198+00:002011-11-21T00:23:24.198+00:00I'm coming from it from a different angle, ie ...I'm coming from it from a different angle, ie I'm not writing romance, but I find by concentrating on who has the power (even if it's genuinely shared at points) it allows me to track a sexual encounter. Actors during rehearsals do what are called status exercises, where each is given a number between 1 and 10 of the status they hold at that moment and have to act accordingly with a partner who has a different status number. Then the numbers for each are changed and they have to switch. For me writing a sex scene is a bit like that. Then you can refer to parts of the body that aren't necessarily the genitalia, but maybe if one of the partners is trying to manoeuvre so they're head is over the edge of the bed, but the other won't let them - not in any real brawn way, but just in how they two of the are moving together.<br /><br />I wrote a whole post-coital scene which contained no sticking bits in other anatomical things, but I hope contains an incredible amount of sexual tension as the woman won't let the man speak and bars his mouth with fingers. It's all about maintaining the sexual power over the other. I've filmed a version of it, but it's not ready to upload yet. <br /><br /><br />marc nashSulci Collectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293833259808943096noreply@blogger.com